This is what I wish every guy would know about women – we still sometimes need you to save us. But not in the way you still think we do.
Knights in shining armor aren’t gone, their role simply has changed. With women taking on more roles than just the caregiver, it leaves men wondering sometimes where their place is within this new family dynamic.
But the answer is simple – your place is right beside me. Do I need you to solve all my problems? Nope. What we women do best is handle the five thousand different things around us so that the world we created together doesn’t collapse.
But my question always has been – what happens if I collapse?
Do I need a knight in shining armor then? Well, yes and no. I don’t need you to draw a sword and fight something you think I can’t. As much as I value your opinion my love, I don’t need you to give me ten pieces of advice for ways to solve things because that may not be the way that I like to solve my problems.
What I need is for you to put your arms around me, tell me that everything is going to be okay, and don’t let go while I pick up my mental sword and fight whatever it is that’s holding me back. Your sword is now your arms holding me tightly so I don’t fall. Simply because if we fall, so does everything else. And our greatest fear is falling.
You see, I’m strong. But that doesn’t mean I’m okay all the time. It means that whenever the world is too much, I need you to hold me, and not let go. Remind me that you’re thinking about me when I’m not there. Tell me one thing that makes you love me so much. Push my hair behind my ear just for the heck of it, so I can actually feel like a woman rather than what I define myself as in this world.
So, do I still need a knight in shining armor? Damn straight I do. But one that fights for me when I just don’t have enough left in me to fight for myself.
That’s worth a thousand swords.